{ Guest blog post by Ben Stanford from Toys4sex.com.au, an Australia-based ecommerce site specializing in Adult Sex Toys }
When divulging in kink and intercourse it involves much more then just the genitals – we have pleasure spots all over our body.
Sensation play and touch is the ideal way to get to know your lover’s physical turn-ons and erogenous zones. Deviously blindfolding your partner heightens the feeling of touch, allowing them to focus more acutely on the fantastic feelings you’re giving them.
Cold, hot, smooth or rough – since your lover can’t see from the mask or blindfold, each sensation you present to them will seem as a surprise. They don’t know where you’re going to touch them next, or what it will feel like.
Why not try bringing some restraints into the equation to prevent your partner from doing anything to control the experience, this is compelling and provides a sense of short term power because you are allowing your lover to surrender completely to the sensations you choose to give them, taking them on a little pleasure trip entirely of your choosing.
With the right sex toys, it’s easy to spoil and tease your partner to heightened states of arousal – and, of course, to give fantastic sensations that aren’t just genital focused.
If you are the person getting all of the erotic sensation play, make it your lover’s choice to grant or deny you any further interactions. If you want to take things further, block out your hearing, too, with ear plugs or even ear muffs. The experience will be all the more erotic.
Sensation play relies on erotic surprise, so even household objects and your existing play set can make great toys. Here are ten fun things you can do with items you probably already own.
1. Temperature Play
The initial shock and chill from an ice cube slowly dragged across the sensitive regions of our skin can be thrilling, especially if you vary it with something like the warmth of your breath.
Try drinking some warm tea or coffee and heating up your tongue, from here you can taste your lover’s erogenous zones, a warm tongue can feel fantastic for oral sex, you can then quickly change to an ice cube before getting back into the rhythm.
Look at using some cutlery in the kitchen such as a cold metal spoon, rub it along your lovers thigh or chill it in the freezer for a cold chilling surprise.
2. Toys
If your partner is male, use a fake vagina to slowly work your partner’s penis while he is blindfolded.
3. Spanking Play
Use your hand to spank, scratch, pinch or even tickle. You can also use a crop or ruler to lightly spank your partner. Gently nibble, lick or blow on different areas, closely watching your partner’s reactions to see which places they like best.
4. Taste & Touch
Think about the aspect of taste and touch. Use a lemon in your partner’s mouth while seducing them with an ice cube. It will tantalize the mind to focus on two things at once while you also work on other erogenous zones with your hands or mouth.
5. Sound
Bring the effects of sound into the mix to heighten the experience. Pulsating high energy sound waves can increase your lover’s heart rate & pump adrenaline faster through their body.
6. Clothing Textures
Play with clothing of different textures. Dress in a latex outfit or PVC bikini to stimulate your partner's fantasy and visual stimulation.
7. Pen or Pencil
Depending on the area you write on and the pressure you use, you can create any sensation from ticklish to teasingly arousing. They’ll be wondering what you’ve been using on them the whole time until the blindfold comes off.
8. Nipple Clamps
Popularized by Fifty Shades of Grey, nipple play with nipple clamps give you a continuous rush of pleasure that you’ll love if you like your nipples being pinched.
The pressure from clamps and nipple tweezers can be adjusted to a setting that is as hard or as soft as you would like it. Try a set of clamps with a few variations on settings, some may include metal sliders that allow you to easily maneuver the amount of pinch. Some clamps have rubber tipped ends, too, so they won’t dig into your skin.
9. Satin / Tulle Gloves
Sometimes simple sensations are the sexiest and leave a lasting memory in our minds, like blindfolding your lover and stroking them all over with satin gloves. Contrasting the feel of leather with the smooth sensation of satin feels divine. For a twist on a classic, try giving a hand job while wearing gloves, the reaction you will get will be quite surprising.
10. Wax
The sting from some hot wax when it hits the skin can be an extreme turn on, the wax will then slowly cool and you drop some sparingly on your partner’s next erogenous zone. The sensation was a fine line between pain and pleasure – it will feel incredible! The most exciting thing can be the anticipation, as you hold the candle over your partner and wait for the wax to hit their skin.
You can start the night with a romantic candle lit dinner use some strawberries and champagne, chocolate and vanilla and make create the perfect sensual atmosphere. From here you can get creative about how you bring the candles into the equation of seduction and sexy lingerie.